Some Much Needed Advice to OSM Everywhere

This is my dearest friend KW. She is not only beautiful and brilliant, but she has a hot car, too.

This commentary is dedicated to KW and all women like her. You know the women I'm talking about. They're smart, successful, normal, kind, talented, gorgeous, funny, independent, and practically perfect in every way.

The thing is that I've finally had it. I've had it with older single men everywhere. Don't get me wrong. I'm not bitter or jealous or sour and I don't want to come across that way. I love men. I love the way they look, the way they smell, and their generally endearing quirks. I just think it's time for single, independent, and fabulous women everywhere to stand up and be heard. Based upon my detailed analysis and years of research--99% of single men between the ages of 27 and 100 are missing something. Some have lost their confidence while others have lost their humility. Some don't care anymore and some care too much. Some have been mixed up with scary women. There is a fine line to be walked when one reaches this age range without a significant other.

I think, in general, they just freeze up. They don't know how to handle women. To ask one out on a simple date seems like a commitment. Not only that, but they become SUPER particular. It's not uncommon for a man to go out with a woman once and then immediately find the proverbial "TOO" excuse. She's TOO tall; TOO independent; TOO high maintenance; TOO quiet; TOO churchy; TOO needy. OR the proverbial "NOT. . .ENOUGH" excuses. She's not spiritual enough; smart enough; skinny enough; animated enough; kind enough; pretty enough; motivated enough. Granted, in some cases, these are legitimate claims. Unfortunately, I think the average OSM (older single man) is looking for weaknesses. He's looking for excuses not to ask her out again. He's looking for a WAY OUT. He's scared and the more this cycle of avoidance continues, the more introverted and complacent the man becomes. He doesn't feel bad when the weekend passes without a date. He prefers Sportscenter to hitting a movie with a blind date. He would rather "hang out" with friends than ask somone to dinner.

When will OSM realize that there is a sizeable gap between what they're looking for and what they need? I'm not saying women are perfect. In fact, I know that we're far from it. Some of us are down right ridiculous and even SCARY. I hope those women are the minority--for the sake of OSM everywhere. The reality is that OSM are missing out on the amazing majority. They are missing having someone who always cares. They're missing a second opinion, a companion, home cooked meals, children, faith, hair in the bathroom, in-laws, clean sheets on the bed, laughter. . .someone to grow old with.

So, as an OSW offering advice to OSM (take it or leave it), let me simply say--take a deep breath and get back on the old dating horse. I guarantee that if you'll open your eyes a little bit wider and take a few more risks, you'll be sleeping with someone in clean sheets very soon.